Reduce Stress and Stay Calm in Five Easy Steps
This interesting article addresses some of the key issues regarding calm. A careful reading of this material could make a big difference in how you think about calm. Are you looking for more calm satisfying experiences with you daily life? Do you get frustrated with yourself at the end of the day because you’ve gotten stressed or agitated? Are you tired of getting over emotional and just not feeling healthy. Whether you are experiencing one or all of these feelings, here are my 5 best tips on reducing the negative feelings so that you will feel calm and comfortable with yourself each day.
1. Catch yourself when you start feeling the behavior that you don’t like and change it.
First of all you may not notice the feeling until after you have gone through it and that’s fine. Think about how you would rather feel. Think about how you would rather have handled yourself. Decide how you want to do it the next time. As you continue with this ritual each day you will find that you will notice a lot easier what you are doing throughout the day. You will begin to catch yourself earlier and sooner as you do this. Eventually, you will be noticing yourself while you are doing it, then stop yourself. At some point you will be able to notice before you get frustrated and won’t start to feel and react in the undesirable way. Here is where you will actually begin to change the way you react to the situations in your life and change your emotional behavior and become more comfortable.
2.Stay centered all day by focusing throughout the day.
Develop the habit of paying attention to your mind as the day goes on. Several times daily step away from what you are doing to get re-adjusted. Sit down close your eyes and take several long slow deep breaths while imagining the stress washing slowly out of your body. Notice your breathing getting slower and calmer. Just think about your breath. Try to keep from getting frustrated and emotional and thinking about anything at all. It’s ok to not be thinking about anything for awhile!
3. Watch out for your expectations.
You are setting yourself up for disaster, upset and frustration sinks in when you set too many standards as to how you think things should be. Realistically, the only difference between you and calm experts is time. If you’ll invest a little more time in reading, you’ll be that much closer to an expert when it comes to calm and being healthy. Think about what leads you to getting stressed? Why does it upset you? Notice that you decide how many things should be, based on your own outlook and desire. The things others do that are not to your liking, even the things you do that don’t match your expectations. Ask yourself, really how important is it that they be that way? Ask, who am I to insist that they are that way? Does it really matter that much? Is it worth getting myself upset? Choose which expectations are really important for you to hold on to and which ones are not. Holding on to many expectations just complicates your life, with never-ending judgment. Simplify your life, feel healthy and avoid stress.
4.Delegate
This applies to your personal life as well as at work.Most of us think of delegating as a skill we need for work but it also applies at home. We are all very busy these days with our activities and interests. Trying to fit it all in and get it all accomplished can lead to tension. For various reasons, many of us have developed the habits of thinking we must do it all ourselves. Take a look at your situation and your personal life. Think about it, really, how important is it that everything must be done perfect to your set of standards? Are you sure there are not other people who can assist you. Are the other people in your life doing there part? Many times we get into ruts that can easily be avoided through positive habits. Look at the way things are with the intent of reducing the pressure off yourself and avoid getting stressed.
5. Accept other people as one.
As you think of yourself as different and separate from the rest of the world, you unknowingly create thinking and behavior that separates you from others. This kind of separate thinking leads us to think we are superior to others which leads to judgemental behavior and self centeredness. We are then having an internal battle with other people, which brings on fear and comparison which ends in frustration and anxiety. Look to discover how to see yourself as one with all of the world, not separateness. Focus on your thinking and behavior and what we have in common as opposed to differences. Check out “The Seven Laws of Nature”
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